Why Resilience Doesn't Mean What You Think (And Why It Still Matters)
Jul 16, 2025In this week’s video blog, I’m diving into a word that can feel really loaded—resilience.
If you've ever been told your child “just needs to be more resilient,” you’re not alone—and you're right to feel frustrated. That kind of thinking places the problem squarely on the child, overlooking the bigger picture of school anxiety, which often stems from a mix of personal, environmental, and systemic challenges.
In this video, I talk about:
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Why real resilience is about more than just “grit”
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What factors actually help children cope in tricky environments
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Why we need to support children to feel capable, connected, and calm
This isn’t about blaming children—it’s about empowering them with the skills, relationships, and support they need to feel better, even when the world around them can’t shift fast enough.
Resilience isn’t about being tough—it’s about having the right tools, the right support, and the belief that things can improve.
If you’re not always sure what to say or do when your child goes into fight, flight, or freeze before school, you’re not alone. I’ve created a free guide that walks you through simple, practical steps to help bring your child back to calm. You can download it here and keep it handy for those tricky mornings.
Nicky Odgers
